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Sunday, April 27, 2014

The Utility of the Japanese Flag and the Best Things You'll Read All Week

by Ben Howard

Reads of the Week

1) God Has A Body by Emily Maynard

"One time I heard a woman take a deep breath and close her eyes and lift up her hands and pray: Father, Mother, Brother, Sister God, be with us. I cringed; my body tensed up. God couldn’t be like that. God was Jesus, was man, was male, was Father, was Lord, was King, was God. I couldn’t handle a prayer like that. To use feminine names or references for God was disrespectful, liberal, unbiblical, and wrong. It was making God in my own image to use a feminine pronoun. God wouldn’t be like that, like a woman, like me, like Emily."

2) The 5 Stages of (Faith) Loss by Addie Zierman

"You start tentatively saying the word shit, and before long, you’ve worked your way up to fuck. These forbidden words seem the only language sturdy enough for your anger and pain, so you use them again and again and again. You begin to call them 'Church People,' and you take a certain amount of comfort in pointing out their faults. Petty. Judgmental. Closed-minded. Sometimes you even stoop to critiquing their clothes, their personalities, their mannerisms. You’re so angry that once you start pointing out faults you can’t stop."

3) LOL Interwebz: The Great WorldVision War, the Battle of Noah, and the Rise of Mob Justice by Luke Harrington

"Because it’s not enough to disagree with people anymore, and it’s not enough to explain that disagreement clearly and sincerely. It’s not enough to encourage people to change their minds and give them good reason to do so. In the era of instantaneous responses, we are all the mob, all of the time. We have to assume the worst of each other. We have to demand blood."

4) Hymnals and the Way of Faith in the Story of the Church by Benjamin Moberg

"These are the songs I once hated, but they are meeting me right now with a precision and truth I cannot explain. In the midst of my own cynicism and sensitivity and anger, in the mess of all the wrong and unkindness of the Church, these plain and poetic words arrive standing before me, unadorned and beautiful, like peace, like Jesus out on the water."

5) "God's Not Dead" and the Angry Atheist Professor: That Was Not My Experience by James Hoskins

"Not once did my philosophy professors attack my faith or treat me unfairly. In fact, I found all of them to be extremely kind, patient, and generous. Several of them, including the Nietzsche expert, wrote me glowing letters of recommendation for grad school that, I’m certain, included compliments I didn’t fully deserve. I felt respected, even mentored, by them. And all of this despite the fact that they passionately disagreed with my beliefs."

A Few We Missed While We Were Away


Holy Saturday and Harry Potter: On Tombs, Thestrals and the Descent into Hells by David Henson

Smoke Break by Shannan Martin

Farewell Evangelicalism? Not So Fast by Hannah Anderson

Tweets of the Week

"If you drive a Nissan and its name isn't 'Liam,' you're wrong." - @Jesse_Baker

"Mitch McGary can't smoke weed at college, so he's taking a six-figure job instead. I think we can all relate to that." - @en_cohen

"I don't think KD is struggling. I think he accidentally transcended physical existence and has to score from the astral plane." - @runofplay

On Pop Theology Week in Review

Dear Theology by Lane Severson

"Dear Theology, I don't know what happened. I never thought I'd be writing this letter."

Go, Diego, Go (Away!) by David Creech

"Go, Diego, Go! is ruining the world."

The Case Against "I Believe" by Lyndsey Graves

"A classmate shared an anecdote about a friend who wasn’t sure he could agree with everything in the Nicene Creed, and I felt confused."

The Word is Dead; Long Live the Word by Charity Erickson

"So, Richard Foster and I are fighting."

Song of the Week

"All Of the People" by Panama Wedding







Peace,
Ben

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Friday, February 14, 2014

The Value In All Sorts Of Loves

by Emily Maynard
 
If you’ve walked into any store that sells things recently, you may have noticed that love is in the air. Actually, it’s on the shelves, the display tables, the aisles, the walls, and piled next to the checkout counter.

Ever since they slid the Christmas lights into the clearance bin the first week of January, we’ve been overrun with heart-shaped confetti and chocolates and sentimental statements screen-printed onto everything. In fact, today might be a bit of a relief, because it’s nearly over now. And it’s almost time for Shamrock Shakes, but I digress.

It’s fine with me if you’re not really into Valentine’s Day this year. I get that. Valentine’s Day is kitschy and overdone and maybe it makes you barf in your mouth a little when couples get super into it on social media.

It seems like torture, when it’s already the coldest and most miserable time of year, for all the privileged, partnered people to have a day set aside to gloat.

It’s like a giant stuffed bear holding a heart that says you’re a loser if you don’t have a certain type of love in your life, and it can be incredibly painful. Some of you probably have stories about romances that feel more like cruel April Fool’s Day jokes.

I’ve been there, too.

This year, though, I am told that everything is supposed to be different. I’ve captured that mythical unicorn of every Young Christian Woman’s heart: a real, live, authentic human boyfriend. All the commercials, and even some of the messages I’ve heard at church, tell me that I should throw myself into romance at the expense of all else. They say I should expect to be showered with diamonds, or at least confetti and chocolate, as a memorial of our love. One of my friends even made mention of it recently when we were trying to make plans to hang out, “Oh, well, next weekend is Valentine’s Day, so you’ll be busy, of course.”

Everything is expected to change now that I’m “in a relationship,” but the thing is, I’ve been in real, significant relationships with people for years before now. It’s called friendship.

It didn’t even occur to me that I’d spend Valentine’s Day with only one person this year, considering I’ve spent so many February-14ths romantically unattached. I’ve formed other habits, and I’m not giving up my independence or my affections for the people that matter in my life.

I missed the rule that years of friendship don’t count once you find a quality mouth-kissing partner. So, this year, like so many years before, I’ll be celebrating Cupid’s birthday with my friends.

My friends and I have relationships that have flourished for years, and that’s without the added incentive of smooching hormones. They’re the ones who loved me when I was wearing cargo overalls (1997), plucking my eyebrows into oblivion (2003), and hadn’t yet discovered dry shampoo or feminism, but definitely needed both (1999-2012). They have shared adventures, ideas, empathy, happiness, and hope through many heartaches. They are the people who have shaped me into who I am and showed me what faithfulness, equality, and love really look like every day. And they have my undying affection in return.

Our culture celebrates romance above all other expressions, but I think friendship actually deserves the biggest cozy-stuffed-animal-holding-a-heart pillow of them all.

If you’ll permit me to rearrange your social life, please, pull back the kitsch and the mushiness and commercialism, and go have an amazing Valentine’s Day with your friends. Not because you’re cynical about the state of romance in the world, but because you see the value in all sorts of loves.

Shower your friends with confetti and chocolates, not because friendship is second best and it’ll suffice until you meet The One, but because love is not limited to one particular type of relationship.

Find ways to celebrate the relationships that tough out years of commitment even without the added sexual chemistry. 

Emily Maynard is an outgoing introvert from Portland, Oregon. She is a big picture thinker and big question ask-er. She likes Twitter, vegetables, fashion, Harry Potter, mentoring college students, new information on anything, and declarative sentences. Emily does her thinking aloud at Emily Is Speaking Up and @emelina.  

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Image #2 via Sister72 
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Saturday, August 24, 2013

Dogs Made Out of Old Boots and the Best Things You'll Read All Week

by Ben Howard

Reads of the Week

1) Accountable for Attention? by Lane Severson

"Traditionally we have called them prophets. Their calling is to speak an unpopular truth and to pump our stomachs in event of a Kool-aid overdose. We are confused about them too. Often the most inflammatory religious voices claim to be prophets. But prophets aren’t just baptized attention whores."

2) Going to Weddings Alone by Emily Maynard

"I wish there was an acknowledgement, even in vows and til-death-do-us-parts, of the realities of the world. I wish there was a celebration of deep rooted friendship beyond marriage ceremonies, with just as much wine and dancing afterward."

3) For a Time by Mason Slater

"For a time it can be easy to get wrapped up in movements, and tribes, and trends, and systems, and buzz words, and being-right-no-matter-the-cost, and forget our humanity. Because it’s tempting to pretend that we are somehow not like everyone else, that we are infallible."

4) In Which I Beg Barbie's Pardon by Sarah Bessey

"I began to rethink my distrust. After all, the argument could be made that you are a feminist icon: fifty years of careers ranging from doctor to teacher and all points between. You seem to have a lot of friends and interests – my daughter always has her little gang of Barbies working together to solve problems, you see. You’re a big sister, too, and a good friend."

5) How "The Walking Dead" Solved Videogames' Christ-Figure Problem by Richard Clark

"What results is an arc that drags the player along to a place of Christ-like selflessness. There is very little actual shooting or beating things up, even zombies. The game is about caring for others, about living purposefully, about walking into a situation of danger knowingly and being open to living and dying through the very worst so that someone else might benefit."

6) There Are No Trophies Here by Micha Boyett

"God was the Ultimate Grownup, smiling if I could keep up with my tasks, a sweet teacher who liked me as long as I was nice enough to All the People and concerned with All the Bad Things. And if I could do it, if I could risk enough and try enough and come close enough to God, it would be enough."

7) Christians and the Myth of "Hookup Culture" by Jonathan Merritt

"The depravity of humans makes history look less like a moral ski slope and more like a moral game of whack-a-mole. Injustices and evils exist in every era, and about the time we eliminate a few of them, we’re forced to face a whole new set."

8) A Plea for Listening Well at Christian Colleges by DeLisa Thomas

"There seemed be an overall misperception that we minorities were playing the victim card and that our experiences of racism were somehow our own fault or mere exaggerations. Honestly, this misperception is one that cuts me to the core."

9) Responding to Homophobia in the Christian Community by Rachel Held Evans

"Sensing that the consideration of full personhood might sway the gay marriage debate toward legalization,  he suggests we should deliberately move away from speaking of gay and lesbian people as multi-dimensional human beings and instead reduce them to sex acts in order to make others more repulsed by them. It is an unabashed attempt to single out, stigmatize, and ostracize an entire group of people, which is the exact opposite of what the gospel calls us to do."

10) The Onanism of "Teavangelical" Republicans by Fred Clark

"Onan was dealt a more severe sentence because he was guilty of a more severe crime. Him Whose Sandal Was Pulled Off was guilty of neglecting his duty to provide for a childless widow. Onan was trying to weasel out of that duty while at the same time exploiting the very woman he was duty-bound to help."

Honorable Mention

What I Won't Tell You About My Ballet Dancing Son by Ashleigh Baker

Accidental Activist by Jamie Wright

Loneliness & Tuna Casseroles by Elizabeth Esther

Tweets of the Week

"Listen, Ben Affleck's probably not thrilled with all of your choices either." - Kendall (@notthatkendall)

"I like to keep my Twitter life separate from my facebook experience because ultimately I am gnostic." - Caitlin Kelling (@cait_kellogg)

 "Slowly, Waldo's wife and Mr. Sandiego started putting the pieces together" - Donni Saphire (@donni)

On Pop Theology Week in Review

On Pop Theology Podcast: Episode 36 - Stand-Up Comedy and the Economics of Divinity School w/ John Thornton Jr. by Ben Howard

"This week Ben is joined by his friend, and On Pop Theology contributor, John Thornton Jr. for a conversation about stand-up comedy and the economics of divinity school."

And There Was Rain: The Expectations and Reality of a Wild Goose Chase by Charity Erickson

"Whatever there is to be said about Wild Goose Festival 2013, my strongest impression will remain that I was mildly damp for its entirety."

We Need To Stop Trying by Ben Howard

"I'm currently lying in my bed staring up at the ceiling. The ceiling fan is whirring on high and jostling slightly from side to side."  

Song of the Week

"Worship You" by Vampire Weekend 


 Peace,
Ben

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Monday, August 12, 2013

On Pop Theology Podcast: Episode 35 - Twitter Is Summer Camp For The Internet

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by Ben Howard

This week Ben is joined by guest hosts Joanna Bradley and Emily Maynard to talk about the weird and wild world of Twitter. We'll talk about meeting internet friends, why you shouldn't date guys from Twitter, whether or not to self-censor, the ridiculous nature of Twitter fights, and the awkward moments when the internet and real life merge. Also, we'll all give our recommendations for Twitter must-follows. Join in, hang out with us, and have a laugh or two.

If you like the show, please rate and review us on iTunes. It's the first step in our secret mission to take over the world.

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Peace,
Ben

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Sunday, July 21, 2013

On Pop Theology Podcast: Episode 32 - On Modesty, Dating, and Being Single in the Church w/ Emily Maynard

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by Ben Howard

Ben sits down with writer and blogger Emily Maynard to talk about modesty culture, "Christian" dating, and being a single twenty-something in the church. Emily takes us through her experience with modesty culture and the frustrations it's caused. Also, we'll confront the idea that marriage is the highest calling in the church and discuss why "Christian" dating advice is just so bad. Have a listen, laugh a little, and we hope you enjoy!

Follow Emily on Twitter @emelina and check out her website Emily Is Speaking Up.

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Peace,
Ben

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Saturday, June 22, 2013

Metta World Peace Wrote a Children's Book and the Best Things You'll Read All Week

metta world peace, bedtime stories, book, children, insane
Not a joke.
by Ben Howard

Reads of the Week

1) I Am Sorry by Alan Chambers
"Please know that I am deeply sorry. I am sorry for the pain and hurt many of you have experienced. I am sorry that some of you spent years working through the shame and guilt you felt when your attractions didn’t change. I am sorry we promoted sexual orientation change efforts and reparative theories about sexual orientation that stigmatized parents."

2) 'Let's Do Something Different': The End of the World's Leading 'Ex-Gay' Ministry by Jeff Chu
"A few hours later, on the first night of the organization's 38th annual conference, Chambers announced that Exodus would do just that: shut down and start something new. Shortly after he left the stage, he called me and we talked for 45 minutes about his journey to this place, making amends, and where he goes from here."

3) Why Justice Needs Reconciliation by Christena Cleveland
"A world in which justice fails to lead to reconciliation is a world in which the cross never led to the resurrection. Those who believe that Jesus’ resurrection inaugurated a new reality in which God is making all things new must prophetically embody that hope by reaching for reconciliation in their justice work."

4) How to Weather June by Emily Maynard
"My hands press into the towel and it leaves a little collection of indentations in my palms. I notice them as I reach my arms up to the sky and then hold them together in front of me, balancing on one leg. The weight of our pain marks us, but we are not overcome. I stand in tree pose and focus on the rocks. I breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth, and I pray for peace."

5) On the Theo-Political Vision of Macklemore; Or, Why Proximity & Intimacy ≠ Solidarity by Amaryah Armstrong
"What I will primarily argue here is that gay civil rights arguments that utilize the analogizing of sexuality with blackness and gay marriage arguments that use the analogy with interracial marriage, end up reifying the condition of blackness as constructed by white supremacy."

Honorable Mention
Death to Orthodoxy by Charity Erickson

Why I Can't Say Love the Sinner/Hate the Sin Anymore by Micah Murray

Overcoming the Sexualization of Our Children by Jason Morehead

Line of the Week

"Pat Riley should take off his shirt and read Shakespeare." - Metta World Peace (@MettaWorldPeace)

On Pop Theology Week in Review

A Place in Sedona by JaneAnn Kenney
"This is not a useful place - not good for farming, not convenient for industry - and yet it feels purposeful. This place is meant to recall God's majesty."

Kentucky Football and God by Jonathan Harrison
"Logically speaking, God can't be partial to one sports team over another. Unless it's the Green Bay Packers, but I digress."

The First Time I Was Right and It Didn't Matter by Ben Howard
"My memories are far more deferential and eloquent than real life."

Solstice by Lyndsey Graves
"Today is the solstice, and I am feeling rather pagan."

Song of the Week

"Winter Is For Kierkegaard" by Tyler Lyle



Peace,
Ben 

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Saturday, May 25, 2013

The King of Southwest Ohio and the Best Things You'll Read All Week

Cincinnati Bearcats, baseball, videobomb, King of Southwest Ohio, funny
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by Ben Howard

Reads of the Week

1) When We Are All Working With Seals and Polar Bears by Preston Yancey
"Without regional identity or regional context, the listening for a common language is harder to do, it is harder to find the shortcuts that are still echoes of orthodoxy, or harder still to navigate the careful line between what may be right and true for the church and right and true for the Church."

2) How (Not) to Speak about Oppression by Marika Rose
"There’s a reason why Marx didn’t worry about how the proletariat could get the bourgeoisie on side, why feminists need men like fish need bicycles, and why Malcolm X didn’t spend his time trying to win over white people. But we don’t get to be neutral in the fight for liberation: there is no Switzerland of the class struggle. So what happens when we find ourselves on the wrong side of the quest for justice?"

3) Broadway vs. Community Theater: Why Pastors and Presidents Are Not CEO's by Fred Clark
"The point is that the task for a community theater is the opposite of the task for Broadway. Broadway wants to find and to hire only the very best possible people for every role. Community theater wants to get the best possible contribution from every person in the community."

4) I Don't Want Kids by Emily Maynard
"I’m afraid that I’m not a real woman because I don’t want to have kids. I’m afraid that people will always see me as lesser and pity me. I hate when they tease that my biological clock hasn’t kicked in, and imply that I’m selfish, or that I just don’t understand the beauty of motherly sacrifice. I do! It’s beautiful for some people, but I want to be me, not a walking womb. I want to sacrifice in other ways. I want to take care of the people who are already in the world, not just make new ones!"

5) In Which Words Like "Real" and "True" Mean Things by Sarah Bessey
"We use these words like they are freeing or universal or helpful, but they are forging new chains for a new law.  There is no such thing as “real” woman or a “real” man. If you are a man, you are a real man. If you are a woman, you are a real woman."

Honorable Mention
The Sexiest Missionary Wins by Jamie Wright

Hope for the Military's Sexual Assault Problem by Lauren Rambo

We Need Thicker Skin by Zack Hunt
 
Line of the Week

"Fast and Furious 6 looks like if Axe Body Spray were a movie." - Sammy Rhodes (@prodigalsam)

On Pop Theology Week in Review

Abusing Each Other for a Good Cause by Deb Winiarski
"I didn't like how Karber treated the people on Skid Row, and I did wonder if he had explained his actions before shooting the video. But I also realized that it was not the first time I had experienced that sour, something's-not-right punch in the gut when watching an awareness ad."

On Oklahoma by Ian McLoud
"This is what families do. They hurt together. They cry together. They help together. They build together. Lord, hear our prayer."

I'm Probably Wrong by Ben Howard
"To be more precise I am probably wrong about 90% of things. Except cake. I'm not wrong about cake. Unless, of course, I am. In which case I'm wrong about 91% of things."

10 Lessons from My First Year of Blogging by Ben Howard
On Pop Theology turns 1 and I reflect on what I've learned in the last year.

How is God With Us? by Rebekah Mays
"I have many more friends with less extreme accounts who nonetheless swear by a voice, maybe audible, maybe not, that directs their paths."

Song of the Week

"On My Way" by SHEL (You need to check out this band, they're crazy good!)



Peace, Ben 

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Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Why I Love Happily Ever After and Why I Need Something Else

on pop theology, philosophy, theology, culture, pop culture, christianityby Ben Howard


Recently, as both a massive surprise to myself and with great loss of personal dignity, I developed a love of the TV show The Bachelorette. Granted, I only watched two episodes, but those two episodes, like crack, were more than enough to guarantee addiction.

In my defense, a significant amount of my enjoyment is ironic. I mean what other show can support so many cliche story lines that it spawns both a drinking game and a fantasy league. At the same time, I actually felt a little emotional when quasi-Mormon Jeff With One F proposed to Emily the Blonde. Against my own expectations I had actually invested emotionally in their relationship. I like them. I hope they end up living happily ever after.

It's easy to mock a show like the Bachelor or the Bachelorette. It's easy to point out the insanity of trying to find your “soul mate” on a nationally televised game show. It's easy to be cynical, but I'm not convinced that the cynicism is warranted. At least not all of it.

At its core, the show provides a proxy for both our deepest desire and our deepest fear. We want to be loved, but we're afraid that we'll end up alone. It's the same core that spurs the success of paint-by-numbers romantic comedies. We want to hear the story again because we want the story to be real. We want the story to part of us. A show like this serves a purpose.

I've always been a hopeless romantic. I love the Bachelorette for the same reason that I love When Harry Met Sally or Definitely, Maybe. They're aspirational how-to guides about finding profound happiness. They're fairy tales.

We need fairy tales. We need escape and we need dreams. Sometimes they even come true.

But we need other stories too or else we run the risk of fairy tales dominating our reality to the extent that we think of them as the rule and not the exception. We need stories that tell us that happily ever after is just the beginning. We need stories that show us that being single isn't synonymous with failure. We need stories that remind us that we don't have to be rich or successful to be valuable.

Churches need to learn how to tell these stories. Please note that I did not say anecdotes or illustrations. These are not points we need to prop up, but stories we need to embody. In order to lead healthy, fulfilling lives we need big, beautiful dreams, but we also need a deeply realized and beautiful reality.

I try my best to be honest here. I've told some of my friends that writing this blog is my form of therapy and this post is no less than that. I love the fairytale, but my pursuit of that fairytale has often left me feeling bitter and lonely.

There are two possible reasons for this. First, to quote from the movie High Fidelity, “Only people of a certain disposition are frightened of being alone for the rest of their lives at the age of 26.” I am certainly of that disposition.

Secondly, and I think more profoundly, I have no idea what it looks like to be healthy, happy and single. It's not a story I'm familiar with, yet when I look at the Bible or Christian history it's quite apparent that this is a perfectly viable option.

I don't have a pithy point to wrap all this up. I love the stories we tell ourselves in popular culture, it's why I like writing about it, but at the same time I think we've gone too far. We know how to chase the dream, but it's become increasingly harder to live the reality. Here's to figuring it out.

Peace,
Ben

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